So I guess this is for the people out there whom have just felt pelted by life… a bunch of people have it worse than me. I will readily admit that, but I hope this is a help to anyone who just is frustrated with life. I’ve been pondering this subject for the last week or so and this is what I came up with… There are ways to combat these feelings 🙂
When life pulls you down the first thing you have to do is make sure you are letting God have the reins to your life (this should always be the case but doubly-make sure in these situations). If you don’t have this step first… to be blunt you’re screwed. If you let him God will help you fight these battles and can be a shelter for you to run to. In Psalm 61:3 it says “For you have been my refuge, a strong tower against the foe.” God is everything you need and he wants to be there for you. You have to realize God isn’t begrudgingly helping you; he does it because he loves you deeply. Jesus was human, he understands our pain and our suffering… and he knows how to help!
Another thing is realize whatever is going on is only for your own good. It really sucks at the time but after it’s all finished you’ll see what God was doing. He only gives us what he thinks is best for our lives and will make us grow as a person. He is doing something amazing with my, your and every single other person on the face of the earth’s (that was long lol) lives. I’m absolutely certain that your life will be more beautiful and fulfilling than it ever was without God and without these hurdles. To be honest, I feel stronger as a person than I was 2-3 months ago. I actually love the words from will.i.am’s song “that power”. “What doesn’t kill you only makes you stronger, so I’m gonna get stronger.” Also, it is God’s strength that he gives to us so never think you are living on your own power. He is building your character and who you are more to where he wants it to be. That is the ultimate goal.
Also, with people I’ve learned you just have to forgive and forget. Yes, I know sometimes the people you forgive still treat you the same way… but don’t hold on to grudges… all the grudges do is bring you down. If a lot of people had the big picture and realized how much grudges were hurting them they would let them go. People can lie to you, act fake around you, gossip behind your back, throw your friendship down the drain, hurt your heart, gang up on you or whatever else but remember that a majority of the time they are only doing it to boost their own self-esteem. I’ve been figuring this out the last few months. So it’s not a shot at you as much as them trying to be in complete control of a situation and making themselves feel better. Sometimes people do take a purposeful crack at you because they hate you or whatever but just stay strong. Those people want to see you fall and get upset. The greatest thing you can do when somebody does that is to just keep going like nothing ever happened because that will show them that their insults aren’t working and they most likely will stop. If a friendship doesn’t work out maybe that was God putting somebody in your life for a season in order to accomplish something in your life. All in all though… you seriously have to let it all go. Don’t let something become such a huge distraction and sideshow that it ruins the rest of your life and don’t let little distractions and sideshows ruin your life either! Just forgive the person and forget… live life like it never happened. If you make a mistake… make it right! We’re all human and make mistakes so just realize that.
So I will admit there are some awesome things that have happened to me the last 2-3 months; however, to be bluntly honest, I have pretty much felt like I’ve been in enemy territory (with a small team) constantly on the run (what a classy metaphor lol). Something in my life gets rocked and while I can eventually stabilize it with God’s help usually by then something else happens. Sometimes there is even multiple stuff at the same time… which obviously sucks. Then the same thing happens to my friends and I gotta be there for them. This is where my dad’s most said yet best quote comes in… he says it all the time but it is so true. “Son, life isn’t fair.” My dad is pretty wise… I mean he now has grey hair 😉 but really though he is a very wise man. Sometimes we get caught between reality and what we think is “fair” to happen. If we were basing it on fairness I (and just about every other person in the world) could sit here and whine on a constant basis. We’d be totally in our right too! However, that’s not how life works. We are in a fallen world and things just ain’t fair sometimes… you just gotta roll with it and trust God… life is too short. Don’t waste it worrying about this kind of stuff- take it from the almost graduated senior in high school.
Also, make sure you have solid friends you can talk to about stuff going on in your life… like the type you would want with you if you were backed up against a wall against an overwhelming force. Thankfully, I have a few of those friends and it is such a blessing for me to have them in my life. Find a few friends that you can trust and want to grow in your faith with because that helps everybody involved. You share in their struggles and they share in your struggles. It honestly relieves you so much.
Also, whenever you are in trials you grow more into the person God wants you to be and some good things come around. I’m a person with a ton of faults but God is slowly reshaping me into something more with his image. Plus nice things have happened like I’ve grown closer to some friends, kept friendships that I honestly thought were going to fall apart and other stuff. One person I’ve known for like six years but these last 8 months we’ve really grown super-close and it has been really cool. It’s funny how you think you know somebody and then you find out that they are much more different than you realized!
Finally, life goes on. I’ve said this thing to my small group at my youth group and my bestest (only a homeschooler would use this word lol) friends…10 years from now we’re gonna look back at everything that happened and we’re barely going to remember most of the stuff that went down. No reason to make a big deal of things… you honestly just have to take what happens and move on. God didn’t make life to dwell on crappy things that happened… He made it so you can use those moments to improve yourself for the present/future and so you will come closer to Him. Because being closer to Him is the ultimate goal of life and once you realize that He can do amazing things with you. And that’s pretty awesome!
P.S. Hope this helps people out… I know just writing what God spoke to me helped me a ton 🙂
P.P.S It is Memorial Day. Thank you to all the men and women who have given their lives for the United States of America and thank you to all those who put their lives on the line today. It’s greatly appreciated!!!